Topic: Pinching

Help!  Tiny has this habit that none of my others had, and I am at my wits end trying to figure out what to do about it.  She nurses for comfort (im pretty much dried up now) and likes her boobie when she needs to chill out, which is cool.  Taking the breast away from her/wening is not an option.  But she PINCHES.  As in, when suckling one nippe, she snakes her hand over to the other breast and pinches the other nipple.  Rolls it around.  Pulls it if I am not wearing a bra.  And it HURTS!  What I have been doing is removing her hand and saying "don't pinch, that hurts", as well as redirecting the wandering hand to something she can fiddle with (her blanket, the edge of my shirt, my hair, my necklace).  It seems as if she is not fiddling my nipple, she wants to stick her fingers up my nose instead tongue  I try to cover it with my hand, she'll yell "stop" and push my hand away.  Or just wiggle her hand under mine/my clothes again.

So after months of this pinching thing, she still does it.  Any other suggestions?  I wear a necklace she can play with (in fact she often does this yoga thing and sticks her foot between my neck and chain while nursing).  I encourage her to bring a toy, blanket or bottle when she nurses so she can fiddle with that instead.  Like I said, weaning is not an option, though she gets most of her "milk" from a bottle now, the boobie is her comfort.  Since she has no other real lovies I'm not ready to remove that from her (plus I'm tired and have no sticking power to full out weaning right now, I will give in, I know, I tried doing the night weaning thing not long ago, it lasted 2 hours).

Any help for my poor nipples?  Or just wait it out?

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Re: Pinching

I'm having the pinching/fiddling problem right now, too.  Not with breastfeeding, but with bottles or rocking for nap time or bed time.  He wants to pinch and grab and scratch everything he can get his hands on - which is my nose, neck, hair, back-of-arm fat (that one hurts SO bad!)...if I move his arm or hand away from what he's trying to mess with, he throws a little mini-fit.

So, no advice from me!  Hopefully someone has some pointers...

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Ohh, the back of arm fat one sucks!  Ivy did that for months, I had tiny fingerprint bruises up my arms for the longest time, then she just stopped!

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Could you stop the nursing session when she does that with a firm "No, that hurts"...you don't have to wean her but I bet if she likes that mommy comfort she will learn not to pinch or she looses Mama boobie. I have had a pinching problem...not with breast feeding but with my youngest daughter who is disabled as I tried to dress her...a firm..."NO that hurts" and pulling her a way for a few minutes helped stop it eventually.

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Haha! That sounds like life over here, Goobs. I get fingers up my nose, pulling on my lips, poking me in the eyeball. What she really wants is to play with my "face toy" (glasses) but I have learned to set those aside when she nurses. She loves raking her fingers over anything and everything she can, so if her nails weren't clipped just perfectly, it *hurts*. And her nails are rarely clipped just perfectly. She does pinch/grab (whole hand fist) too, but she's more into poking her fingers and "exploring" the holes in Mama's face. I tell her "no, that hurts Mama" and redirect her like you do. The redirection only lasts a few seconds, but it's a start.

I only recently convinced her to return to the boob after a few months of exclusive pumping, so I'm not apt to pull away or stop the nursing session. She had developed a preference for the bottle and was outright rejecting any boob with loud protests, and the exclusive pumping was driving me to the brink of insanity. So I will take a little temporary small-fingered abuse if it means not having to be hooked up to a pump 3-4 hours a day.

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Alayna has recently started doing this as well, not to my nipple but reaching and scratching pinching my face! We are only nursing right when we all get home from work/school, at bedtime, sometimes in the early morning (she now goes to bed by 630pm and usually wakes between 4-6am for a brief nursing session and is up for the day between 6-7am) and naps on weekends and for comfort at random times.  It seems to happen most when she is not super tired, she does have a teddy bear lovey that I put between us/on top of her when we are nursing at sleepy times and have taken to just firmly removing her hand from my face and either holding it in my hand saying "No that hurts mommy" or redirecting her to the tag on her bear which is what she likes to usually fiddle with.

Can you somehow "lock up" the other breast? Like make sure you are wearing a bra for a while during nursing sessions that will not allow her access? Then also redirect her to a stuffed toy or something that you hold between you? This might also transfer into a lovey which will make weaning easier when the time does come? It is amazing how attached to this bear Alayna has gotten for sleep, it truly has replaced the all night nursing! I just kept bringing it with us every time we nursed or putting it between our bodies on the bed, etc and eventually she started grabbing for it herself and now lies on top of it and sucks on or rubs the tag when I unlatch her and put her in her crib or when she wakes at night.

Good luck! I know you are tired, but try to stay consistent, as you know that is the key!!! Better to do it now than after the baby comes!!

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I'm all for the limit setting.  If she doesn't stop, she gets down.  That's it.  There is no reason to continue something that is painful to you if it doesn't need to be.  What sort of limit setting do you use with other issues?  We use 1-2-3 counting leading to time outs as a regular form.. for nursing it's 1-2-3, nursing is done.  E does go through phases where this is more or less of an issue, but she learns quick and it fades away again.

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Hmm, she does havea  frog she loves and often brings with her to the boobie, maybe I'll make more of a point of having it with us all the time when nursing so she can fiddle it not me.  She's got houdini hands that can get into every bra or shirt I own!

K&H for other limit setting we don't do the count thing, but do "this is the boundary, cross it and lose (whatever)".  Like cars get played with not throws, if you throw them, we take them away.  I will admit I threaten to take away boobie if she pinches (which does help her stop for a few minutes) but never really have, since it seems to set off crying jag that takes nursing to calm down!  She's a pretty mellow kid, but when she's really upset boobie is her main calming coping mechanism still.

Today has been better.  And thank you so much for the ideas and sympathy!

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