Hi lovely ladies of N.W.!! My name is Leslie, and I live in a mid-size city in the midwest. I'm separated from my husband of ten years, and at 39 yrs. old, am facing a whole new lifepath. I've considered myself a born nurterer, mothering all around me since I was a kid myself! I've been employed as an infant teacher at a local pre-school since I was 21, (that's 18 yrs. now!), and despite the inherent occupational stress, still love it. My husband and I tried for several years immediately after we were married, to start our family, to no avail. After 3 yrs. of heartbreaking monthly letdowns, he was tested,and found to have a low count that would inhibit natural conception. He had underwent a year and a half of intensive chemo. and radiation treatments for Hodgeskin's Disease 9 yrs. before we met, and although he was and still is, in remission, his doctor never advised him to bank sperm, only to wait several yrs. before trying to conceive another child (he has a child from a previous marriage). As devastating as his diagnosis was, we were told that we were still good candidates for I.U.I. w/his sperm, but it would be costly (close to $2,000 per attempt just to spin "em & put "em in).
We saved, took a last "couple w/out kids" vacation, and returned to him being laid off. One obstacle after another in the following years prevented us from ever having the expendable income to give it a try. We're separated now, and I have realized over the last year or so, that I've got to "make it happen" for myself. I'm tired of my dreams being put on hold...let's go!!
Which brings me here:) My sister "babybaby" after years of dating disappointments, found herself thinking of this option, and found N.W. I thought it was interesting, listened through her litany of reasons that made perfect practical sense, and found myself toying with the idea privately. She attempted it about 10 mos. ago, but got her timing off, and is waiting for the new year to give it another go. I've been perusing your forums for a bit now, and have gained the courage to seriously consider this, from all of you single moms, in particular. What is so great here, is to see women from all different backgrounds , be it married, lesbian, single, atheist, pagan, christian, etc. rallying around each other in support of the most basic and beautiful dream and right: motherhood. So beautiful, and I can't wait to start my journey w/ you!!