Hi, I'm new ... I have not yet started trying. I'm having a really emotional morning and need to talk about it. I think I have waited too long, as I'm 42. I don't know. I never consciously decided not to have children, but it wasn't a priority before...I never met their father, and never felt financially secure enough to do it on my own. I didn't ovulate regularly in my 30s (ironically, I do now), and felt like I wasn't missing out until I was about 40.
Now, I wish I'd made different choices. I am in excellent health, apparently ... am super active ... and reuniting with so many old friends on Facebook has finally kicked off my maternal drive. It's very hard, because the odds of me getting pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy are so slim now, and I worry whether everyone will see me as selfish for trying at this point (I'm single, I work full time, I have a dog...although, I work from home and my boss is very pro-motherhood, almost to a fault in terms of being a fair boss).
I'm here because I worry that my ob/gyn may discourage me. Last year he suggested trying if I wanted to; this year, a week ago, he didn't mention it, and neither did I.
I want to run throughout the land and tell women in their mid-30s who think they have so much time to please, please rethink that. I know so many like that; I was one.
I want to try, maybe just once. And if it doesn't happen ... well, it doesn't. I know the odds of getting pregnant on the first try are ridiculous. I know I may get a little flamed for what I'm saying, but maybe someone here might be going through something similar. I am at the point where every month, when I know I'm ovulating, I mourn. (today I'm PMSed, so I guess I mourn twice a month...)
Thanks for listening I don't feel I have anyone in my real life with whom I can be this raw right now.
I am considering adoption as well.