Topic: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I conceived with a NW ICI donor 6 years ago when I was 29. It was the 3rd round we got lucky enough to get our BFP after inseminating on cd 14 and 15. Which was at first +opk(dark line, I didn’t use digitals way back then, haha) and then I believe 24 hours later.

This time I have been using pretty much just clear blue easy advanced digitals and been inseminating on cd 15 and 16: immediately at solid smilie and then again 24 hours later. As I have gotten the solid smile at around 11am on cd 15 for my last three cycles. So cd 15 @11am and cd16 at around 9am. Th first cycle was a BFN and I made the mistake of getting IUI vials instead of ICI. The 2nd cycle I really felt pregnant but all the early result tests came back negative. It wasn’t until the day after my missed period that I got a positive on a early result test. Unfortunately it didn’t stick and I had a chemical pregnancy at about 6 weeks. Which has really been weighing hard on my heart. But want to keep going. I jumped right into another round reading stories of women being super fertile the month after a CP. I did the same insemination timing as I figured I did get pregnant with that timing, but again a BFN.

SO I am not giving up but taking a month off. Some people suggest more time after a CP. I have also started to take CO Q-10 300mg a day but think I may give up the Premama I’ve been taking. I also use Preseed during each insemination.

So my questions are: should I alter timing and go on days 14 and 15 or stick to what I’ve been doing and trust the clear blue advanced digitals? Should I start temping, I haven’t done this in the past and I’m not sure why.

Thanks for any input. And wishing BFPs for you all!! <3

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

OR....do you think I’m doing it too soon and should do it later?? I’ve read the older you are the closer to +opk you OV and in some cases before! So thus my thoughts to do it sooner. Thoughts.... and THANKS!!

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

we cant tell you which day but you should insem the day of or day after a +opk. I usually do 2 insems to cover more time.
I also believe you are most fertile right after losses.
I wish you the best.

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I guess I’m looking for suggestions for trying at this age vs younger. For those successful at a later age with regular cycles trying at home without any help from a specialist.

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I concieved my daughter directly after a MC...went for a 4 week check up and my HCG had not dropped we did an ultrasound and there she was. She is now in her first year of college at PSU ???? I am 40 I totally understand your feeling. I hope it works soon. I am not going to carry this time my wife will.

Jessica & Amanda
Married 8 years
2 French Bulldogs AKA our life
Both have previously given birth
TTC first together

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

yeah Im a older mom and I still ovulate 12-32 hrs from + opk. almost always w in 24 hrs of the +opk

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I am totally regular myself. But I am also the primary income source and I travel for work regularly. I really thought about doing duel insemination as we have synced cycles.... but then thought of multiples terrified me . My wife is 29 and taking fertility drugs to up our chances. The process is more exhausting than I remember....

Jessica & Amanda
Married 8 years
2 French Bulldogs AKA our life
Both have previously given birth
TTC first together

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

So no one thinks I should try for sooner than what I’ve been doing? Like cd14 which is when I inseminated when I was 29?  Or even possibly later? Or stick with what I have been doing as I did get pregnant with this timing, it just didn’t stick?  Or any suggestions supplement wise? I know you can’t tell me what’s right....But thanks for your advise!!

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

again, you cant just pick a day and inseminate. you need to do it around the time you get a + ovulation test. and we cant know when that would be for you. so insem 12-36 hrs after a + opk.

remember sperm only lives 12-24 hrs after thawed.

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I as 32 when I inseminated at home with ICI vials.  I did 2 vials, one 12 hours after +opk, the other 24 hours after +opk and luckily got pregnant on my first try.  I would not inseminate as soon as you get the +opk but rather wait a little.  You could do earlier than 12 hours later if you wished but I wouldn't do it right away.  Good luck!

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

So I did not inseminatr last cycle. I got my period 4 days early though, which is strange for me as my cycle is clockwork. But this is my 3rd cycle since my CP. I was planning to inseminate this cycle but wonder if I should wait another round since I got my period early so maybe my hormones are still messed up? But it’s also strange cause I was four days late getting my period when I had my CP(since I was sad pregnant), and now since I got AF 4 days early I’m back in my old cycle again....so maybe it’s a good sign. Thoughts? And thanks!! <3

Re: Trying again at 36 and looking for advice

I ordered today. So I’m gonna try this cycle. Fingers crossed!!!